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Fear is a crazy phenomenon that can dictate and control much more of our lives than we really think. Fear can also be a debilitating force that holds us back from reaching our goals and our full potential. Even as I write this, I fear that that is true…
The fear we possess isn’t really a fear of the task at hand or activity itself, but a fear of uncertainty. When we don’t know the certain outcome of a situation, we start to feel uneasy and become fearful of the opportunity presented. If you’re approached by your boss and asked to lead a new project within the company, you don’t think to yourself “I’m scared to lead this team.” Instead you think, “What if this is the worst project that the company has seen and I end up getting fired. I won’t be able to pay my bills, I’ll be homeless, and all because I said yes to leading a new project.” It’s the uncertainty of not knowing how things will turn out that causes us to fear things we wouldn’t normally think to be scared of.
As humans we’re very quick to think of the worst case scenario, which is not always a bad thing, but it’s much easier for most people to point out the potential disasters instead of thinking of the great possibilities that could come from opportunity. When the boss approaches you and asks you to lead a new project, very few people think logically and rationally about various outcomes and all the variables that will affect them.
My biggest fear used to be writing. I wasn’t scared of pens, pencils, paper, or computers; but I was scared of the uncertain judgment that was certain to come from presenting ideas in written form. When you speak to someone and say something silly, you’re able to quickly retract your statement and restate it. When you write down thoughts and ideas, there is no retracting or restating.
In order to over come our natural fear of uncertainty, we must come to terms with the fact that we will never know for sure, the outcome of any certain situation. Whether it’s cooking, parenting, or simply writing thoughts down, we’ll never know the outcome of our actions until the outcome itself is presented. Boy, that sounds scary! The fear of not knowing is what holds us back from taking chances in life.
Don’t let the fear of uncertainty hold you back from taking on a new challenge in life. As a great friend always says, “we’re at our best when we’re out of our comfort zone.”
- Jared Nylander